Butler reiterates that one must define an "Other" before conceiving of a "self" (27), as Lacan originally proposed with the concept of "mirror image" self-identification. I wonder whether one is forced to define one's self in response to perceptions of "otherness" - is it not possible to develop a sexual preference before heterosexism is societally imposed on an individual, or before one recognizes in oneself and labels it with the restrictive language constructs? And speaking of language constructs - when faced with an unknown, one must either search for existing knowledge of it, or define it using familiar terms. Is it then really that surprising that identification of sexualities forms from the majority sector, which has been established as a "norm" far earlier than other gender identity labels came into existence? People tend to favor connections with others who have similar experiences, hence the formation of cohesive groups based on nationalities, races, classes, genders, etc (see current politics). Those refusing to choose a side or to play a role are categorized anyway by the existing groups. Is it possible to remove the factor of public scrutiny, and if it were possible, would the result then somehow detract from one's self-identity?